How To Beat Your Wife
As a responsible Muslim, one must be judicious, and follow a reasonable program. Start with admonishments, follow up with the silent treatment. Work up to the bashing. Not the face. Women are not to be confused with donkeys. Watch out, that sly vixen will use her tears … “For men, women’s emotions may be fiercer than the strike of a sword.” Saudi imam explains. MEMRI:
“While the Man May Use Beating to Discipline His Wife, She Sometimes Uses Her Tears to Discipline Him”
Muhammad Al-’Arifi: “Men beat women more often than women beat men. I said that some women beat their husbands because this happens, but it is rare, and there is no need to hold conferences on wives who beat their husbands. I believe this is less prevalent, because by nature, the body of the man… In most cases, Allah made the body of men stronger than the body of women. Therefore, you and your sister… You may be taller than your mother, right? If your mother is ill, you may be able to carry her, but she cannot carry you. Allah created women with these delicate, fragile, supple, and soft bodies, because they use their emotions more than they use their bodies. Therefore, while the man may use beating to discipline his wife, she sometimes uses her tears to discipline him. He gets what he wants by screaming, while she gets what she wants from him by crying and displaying emotions. For men, women’s emotions may be fiercer than the strike of a sword.” [... ]
“If Neither [Admonishing nor Refusing to Share Your Bed] Works With Her, What is the Third Option?”
“First, “‘admonish them’ – once, twice, three times, four times, 10 times. If this doesn’t help, ‘refuse to share their beds.’ In such a case, the husband does not sleep with his wife, or, in other words, he is angry with her. He gives her the silent treatment, refusing to talk to her. If he comes to eat, and she asks him: ‘How are you?’ – he doesn’t answer. If she asks him: ‘Do you want anything?’ – he doesn’t answer. He distances himself from her in bed and in conversation; he does not sleep with her, but goes to sleep in another room. He shows her that he is angry with her. If this does not help – if the admonishing does no good, and when he goes to sleep in another room, she says: ‘Thank God he’s gone. Now I’ve got the whole bed to myself, I will sleep alone in bed and roll over at night as much as I like.’ If neither method works with her, what is the third option?
Guest: “‘And beat them.’”
Al-’Arifi: “That’s right. How is this beating performed? What do you think?”
Guest: “Light beatings.”
Al-’Arifi: “Light beatings in what way?”
Guest:” For example, I wouldn’t beat her in the face…”
Al-’Arifi: “Beating in the face is forbidden, even when it comes to animals. When a person is beating an animal… Even if you want your camel or donkey to start walking, you are not allowed to beat it in the face. If this is true for animals, it is all the more true when it comes to humans. So beatings should be light and not in the face.
“Some religious scholars say: ‘He should beat her with a toothpick.’ I happen to have a toothpick with me. A man who is angry with his wife because she doesn’t get it… If he says to her: ‘Watch out, the child has fallen next to the stove,’ or: ‘Move the child away from the electrical socket,’ and she says: ‘I am busy’ – then he beats her with a toothpick or something like it. He doesn’t beat her with a bottle of water, a plate, or a knife. This is forbidden. The scholars said he should beat her with a toothpick.
“Check out how gentle the toothpick used for beating is. This shows you that the purpose is not to inflict pain. When you beat an animal, you intend to cause it pain so it will obey you, because an animal would not understand if you said: ‘Oh camel, come on, start moving.’ The camel does not understand such things, unless you beat it. A donkey understands nothing but beatings, but a woman, a man, a child, and so on, are generally more affected by emotions than by other things.”
“He Must Beat Her Where It Will Not Leave Marks”
“If you beat her with a toothpick, or if you beat her lightly with your hand, and so on, it is meant to convey: ‘Woman, it has gone too far. I can’t bear it anymore.’ If he beats her, the beatings must be light and must not make her face ugly. He must beat her where it will not leave marks. He should not beat her on the hand… He should beat her in some places where it will not cause any damage. He should not beat her like he would beat an animal or a child - slapping them right and left. Unfortunately, many husbands beat their wives only when they get mad, and when they start beating, it as if they are punching a wall – they beat with their hands, right and left, and sometimes use their feet. Brother, it is a human being you are beating. This is forbidden. He must not do this.”
Women are different than donkeys, therefore must be beaten according to a different program. A symbolic toothpick beating may precede the actual beating, in addition to the admonishments and the silent treatment. But women should not be beaten in the manner one beats an animal or a child, or a wall. Also, be sure to beat where it does not leave marks. And there you have it. Any questions?
MEMRI reports the preceding have been excerpts from a program with Saudi cleric Muhammad Al-’Arifi, which aired on LBC TV on September 9, 2007.
MEMRI invites you to view this clip at: http://www.memritv.org/clip/en/1594.htm
And to view the MEMRITV webpage on wife beating in the Middle East visit: http://www.memritv.org/subject/en/159.htm
MVDG with an amen and some derka derka wife-beating art.
Meanwhile, in Islamic same-sex affairs …
Topics: Islam, saudi arabia
Posted by Jules Crittenden at 8:14 am on Wednesday, November 7, 2007
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November 7th, 2007 at 9:00 am
[...] you and your Colonialist White Patriarchy wouldn’t understand this: Beating in the face is forbidden, even when it comes to animals. When a person is beating an [...]
November 7th, 2007 at 10:44 am
[...] A Saudi Imam teaches his followers how they should beat their wives if the latter refuse to listen to them. The ground rule? Beat, but do it relatively softly. O, and don’t punch her in her face. [...]
November 7th, 2007 at 10:51 am
I think that the ACLU should complain about this.
What, these are Muslims?
Never mind.
November 7th, 2007 at 11:21 am
Where’s all the screaming western feminists who should be demonstrating and petitioning against Islams shameful treatment of women?
Oh thats right, I forgot that most of them are fakes who dont actually give a damn about the future of womankind and are only concerned with changing things to suit themselves……
November 7th, 2007 at 12:53 pm
Lesser known disgrace, a Muslim man can simply say “I divorce you” and it’s done.
On the otter heiny, in seeking a divorce, the woman can be caught up in the tangled mass of shari’a BS (uh, law) for years on end.
Plus she can easily lose access to her children.
As well as… her inheritance is less, her testimony in a court of law given less weight… there are many ways that don’t involve beating about the face (or elsewhere) that indignities and inequities are enshrined in “the law” to keep the woman in a status not far removed from that of the camel.
Allah thinks they’re all completely nuts.
November 7th, 2007 at 4:52 pm
Islam is a Religion of Peace:-)
November 7th, 2007 at 5:26 pm
What do you think the public reaction would be if Christian televangelists preached this kind of thing?
November 7th, 2007 at 6:27 pm
Rebecca, you are confusing cultures. It isn’t within the nature of Christian culture to beat others, at least not these days. BUT it is in the nature of Islam–decreed by no less than Allah himself, through the prophet, wutzitsname.
Next week the imam will discuss the various ways to murder a wife who has displeased you: When beating isn’t enough.
Years from now, archaeologists will wonder why the bones that keep surfacing all over the Arabian Peninsula, and the rest of the Middle East, are mostly female.
November 8th, 2007 at 2:36 am
“BUT it is in the nature of Islam–decreed by no less than Allah himself, through the prophet, wutzitsname.” Saltydog
Let’s not forget while we’re at it the other prophet, that guy that went up on the mountain and came back with a whole bunch of laws that somebody else wrote down for him on some kind of rock. The guy that wrote the stuff down must have been lying through his teeth ’cause he was a Jewish God. Unlike the prophet who figured that Allah likes shifty lying backstabbing desert warriors.
While we’re on the subject, isn’t it strange that the ‘Merciful God’ loves those who cause pain and torture and destruction? I had always heard that it was satan who loved making people miserable and tortured and counseled people to shirk from God’s law.
Hmm, I think that I’ll go back and read what one of Islam’s greatest prophets wrote down before Mo proved that what he wrote down was a lie and no longer has to be followed. I wonder what Moses thinks, now that he knows that everything that he said in the Pentateuch was a lie according to the big Mo.